Pain hurts, yet I feel as though it is something that we are supposed to experience and learn from. When encountering pain, understand where it comes from. You want to figure it out to grow from it. Don’t wallow in the emotions for too long. Wallowing isn’t just the act of feeling sorry for yourself. You shouldn’t be doing anything that will cause you to suffer any longer than necessary. Depending on the situation, you will know when is the right time to let go.
Be open and honest with yourself. It’s hard going through some of life’s problems. Though we aren’t the only one suffering from an issue, we feel like we are when experiencing the pain. To get out of pain, we have to understand what’s going on inside/outside of us. Don’t avoid an issue because you think no one else will see it. It’s not about anyone except yourself. To be truly strong, think about your options and choose one that gets you to the path that you want to be on. The victim mentality takes a lot away from a person. Someone constantly believing that they are hopeless becomes hopeless.
Don’t be regretful about anything that you have done from here on out. Not to say that you will not make mistakes, but be confident in the choice that you have made. As said before, this process is about you. Make choices based off of what feels best for you, not what makes someone else happy. Working to satisfy another person is perfectly normal, but know pay attention to when this dynamic becomes too strenuous on yourself or beliefs. Steadfast in your beliefs and actions.
Make sure that you do not force your happiness onto someone else. Sometimes the choices that are best for us are at a disadvantage to another person. I don’t necessarily support disadvantaging someone else for my personal gain, but that is the path that I have chosen. Whatever you may choose to do, be cautious about the amount of negativity you pass onto someone else.
Pain exists in all walks of life. So does happiness. It isn’t always easy dealing with hurtful things. Be honest about what happens. Try to figure to multiple ways to expand out of an issue. Stay true to yourself, and you’re sure to travel far.